To Amend...

We all want to be winners but how do we handle it when the game does not end in our favor and instead of a victory we are faced with defeat? I am reminded of a time I watched some kids play a game. Both teams were serious about winning, as this was for the championship. These children hustled and gave it all they had but in the end someone had to lose. The team that would succumb to defeat had hurt written all over their faces and tears in their eyes, yet never did they yell, scream at or belittle the other team. Matter-of-fact each CHILD lined up and shook the hand of each member of their opposing team and congratulated them on a job well done, with a smile. These kids, although they were hurting, understood their anger would be misplaced if they took it out on the winning team, as it would not change the result. Sometimes I look at children and their innocence and I am reminded of the lessons we as adults could learn from them.

Which brings me to the fact that I did want to concede to the political tirades of ‘Amendment One’ yet, here goes…

In life there are moments of triumph and moments of disappointment.  While expressing one’s agitation for a defeat is normal, there is a vast difference between the sadness of an unwanted loss and the brutal attack of those who won.  No one wants to lose but every game (and election) has one – a winner and a loser.  When each person voted, whether for or against the Amendment, they knew (or should have known) the amendment would pass or not.  With that being said, how did we get to the point where we are ridiculing one another for their choice when exercising their civic duty?  The comments I have heard, the posts I have read, and the tweets that have been sent are appalling.  Whether you are happy with the results or not there is still so much work to do. Demeaning others never compliments growth, nor does it foster an environment for change; however, working together in love for the common good of ALL people garnishes results (you can quote me on that!). 

Many have expressed that ‘Amendment One’ is hurtful to the children of North Carolina; well I have a few questions...

What can you do to aid in changing things for these children?

How are your anger and/or cynicism going to help the children?

Do you not think children suffer to a degree when born out of wedlock?

Yes, I am sure you may think these questions are debatable and while you are debating, hollering your opinions, creating meaningless graphics that insult others, these children are waiting…